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featured essay: March 2003

Secular Heroes
   by Dale McGowan


"Dad?"

It was my seven year old, Connor, at the dinnertable. When he starts with "Dad?" and goes no further, I know something pretty interesting is coming.

"Yeah Con."

"You know what? NOBODY outside of our family doesn't believe in God."

Oh boy. "Wow. Really? Nobody?"

"That's right. I think everybody else believes in God."

How fortunate, I thought to myself, to have it presented so clearly. This is what kids do beautifully early on --- they say what they think, so you really know and can really respond. Things would be easier if everyone did that. Imagine a coworker who, instead of treating you like dirt for years, just came out and said "I think you're lazy. Is that accurate, or no?" Why, you could address it then and there. But no, soon enough we learn to beat around the bush, to hide our prejudices and perceptions lest they be challenged and corrected. Here, in my boy's honest and understandable perception, was an opportunity to (a) correct this misconception, (b) to praise his openness, and (c) to make it more likely, rather than less likely, that he'd do the same again.

So I said, "What a stupid thing to say! Where did you hear such garbage?"

Okay, I didn't say that. First of all, I'm not an idiot, and second, it really wasn't stupid at all. The religious profile in this country is so high, it's accepted as a default. Sometimes it seems that there's a cross around every neck and a church on every corner, a veritable conspiracy of reality denial posing as "Wisdom." If you believe, you are encouraged in a hundred ways to trumpet that belief; if you don't, you are discouraged in just as many ways.

So what did I say? Well, I started by validating the observation: "Boy, it sure seems like that sometimes, doesn't it?" I shoveled in another forkful and pretended to ruminate. "Except for people like...Thomas Edison."

His eyes went saucer-sized. "Really??"

"Yep." It's true: Edison was an outspoken atheist in a time and place (19th and early 20th century America) that was hardly friendly to atheism. And I know that Edison is a hero for my boy, and realized that I'd never even casually mentioned his atheism. That's probably just as well in retrospect: Connor was able to develop the admiration independent of that fact, then the later knowledge that Edison was a disbeliever caused disbelief itself to rise meteorically in my boy's eyes. [Author's note: What kind of a crazy expression is 'rise meteorically'? Meteors fall, don't they?]

I went on. "Oh and, uh...also Einstein." Okay, now I started to feel a little dirty. This is just too easy. But it's true: Einstein vehemently denied belief in a personal god of any kind, preferring what might be called a mild and abstract pantheism. "And Thomas Jefferson, of course." Okay okay, Jefferson was a deist, which means he believed in the concept of a beneficent deity with no personal connection to humankind. The point is that he was an articulate opponent of religious literalism, and completely renounced Christianity. I'm not going to split hairs with a seven-year old. I continued. "And Stephen Jay Gould (who he knows via dinosaurs)..."

"So, all of the smartest people didn't believe in God!"

Now I've got to draw the line there. It's not that simple. "Actually no. There are a lot of smart people who believe in God, but it's important to know that there are also a lot of smart people who didn't, and don't."

"Well Einstein was the smartest person ever, and he didn't believe..."

And off we went into a terrific discussion of intelligence and belief and a hundred other things. My main intention all along was to encourage a view beyond his surface impressions, to use his existing heroes to debunk the myth of religious unanimity, and, just as important, to keep the question open, always open. That means open in BOTH directions: telling him that all smart people are atheists is just absurd. There are good explanations for intelligent believers, of course, though none lend any credence to the religious perspective itself. But it is a powerful remedy to that myth of religious unanimity to make a habit of pointing out which of the people your kids already admire are also, incidentally, disbelievers in God.

So I'll forgo the opportunity to indoctrinate them to particular outcomes, since there's no need. The process is the thing. I teach my kids to love knowledge, to value critical thinking as the best route to real understanding, and to dislike self-deception and its ability to derail us. If they embrace those values --- and so far, so good --- I'll be a happy dad.





Follow-up to SCOUTING FOR ALL (October 2002)

Late last year I ran an essay describing my own thoughts and struggles over the issue of participation in Scouting, an organization that prohibits membership by atheists. I invited feedback and promised to post some of the responses I received. Here's a representative sample received since then, edited for space and clarity:

Family Issues visitor Cynthia Whitford writes:

My son and I are both atheists. He started as a Tiger Cub in 1st grade and expects to finish as an Eagle Scout before he turns 18.

When he first came home from school begging to join scouts with his friends I was concerned about the religious aspect. I had to think about it for awhile but decided to go ahead because my son is an only child and I have been a single parent for most of his life. I figured I would try to ignore the religion stuff so that he could have the interaction with other boys and dads that I felt he needed. Fortunately the Pack/Troop we joined does not emphasize religion, probably because the boys aren't all the same denomination. Instead they are much more interested in camping, service, playing active games, earning merit badges, letting the boys learn how to run things, etc.

Now that my son is old enough to understand the difference between atheist and christian, we have decided on a policy of "don't ask, don't tell." We know it is dishonest but figure it is a small price that we are willing to pay in exchange for all the fun stuff he wouldn't get to do otherwise.


Family Issues visitor Craig Walker writes:

I scouted ever since I was 7 (1989) as a tiger cub. I stopped at the age of 12 as a second class boy scout (I think) due to the "a-coolness" factor given to scouting by that age. I was living in CA when I started and the religion thing never took shape one bit. If anything I found scouting to be against Christianity due to the weird ceremonies with Akela etc...

But the weird thing is that when I moved to Kentucky, and later became a boy scout, I joined a troop that was directly connected to my church. The meetings were in the church, the planning inside the church. Many of the people in the troop went to my church. (Church of Christ). It is interesting that during those years of scouting, Christianity was not even an issue. Our money came from parking cars into our church parking lot during football games, and we had no real ties to the corporate BSA. We basically just had a fun time.

What you are going through takes guts. You are actually sending your child into the battlefield. By no means am I saying that you're not correct in your thinking. You know your child, not me. He must be pretty smart though.


An atheist dad in Pittsburgh writes:

I don't have kids in Scouting because I feel like the prohibitions are no different from racial prohibitions a generation ago. No one would stand for racial discrimination now, saying "oh well, they're a private organization, what can you do". What if we had ATHEIST stamped on our foreheads? Then a kind of don't-ask-don't-tell approach wouldn't work, and we'd be confronting the discrimination head-on. I'm in favor of joining and coming out in droves to force the issue. I know that would put the kids in an uncomfortable position, but some things are worth being uncomfortable about.


Reneé from Seattle writes:

I'm embarrassed to say I had no idea until I read your piece that atheists were also prohibited by the scouts! Only the gay ban seems to get press. Why is that??

[Ed: Here are my thoughts on that. Although they continue to face discrimination, gays and lesbians have (after much effort) achieved what you might call a status of "cultural tolerance" in the U.S. There are actual laws forbidding discrimination against gays and lesbians, however poorly enforced --- and, according to Gallup, the majority of Americans now at least believe discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation should not be permitted. Importantly, this includes many Americans who think the orientation itself is undesirable or immoral. Atheism has been called the "last taboo," having achieved no such consensus on protection. Discrimination against atheists has yet to crystallize in the minds of the majority as a thing to be avoided, so whatever test cases in Scouting there've been (and there have been some) do not capture the public imagination. (Perhaps we should complain to John Ashcroft about that.)]


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